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How To Do A Family Intervention

A family intervention involves the alcoholic, addict, family members and a few close friends or relatives.

It can be overwhelming as to how to help an alcoholic, addict family member. It becomes a big family problem when the afflicted person can’t see the severity of the problem and is resistant to seeking help on their own. In most cases, a direct heart to heart intervention can help the victim to begin the recovery process.

  • It is a well-orchestrated, small group encounter with a family member who refuses to get help for a drug and or alcohol problem. They are specifically designed to get the affected person into a rehab program immediately.

It is a proven process that has helped thousands of families. A family intervention breaks the “Barrier of Denial” surrounding a family member. They are usually concealing or denying their drug or alcohol abuse and refuse to seek help on their own.

Family interventions should be structured and very well-organized. If a family needs help planning and executing a family intervention, they can hire the services of an insured, licensed, highly trained, professional interventionist.

  1. Start By Designing a Plan – Studies show that family interventions do help but only if they are well planned. Poor planning may worsen the situation when the loved one if they feel attacked. One family member proposes the idea to have an intervention and proceeds to forming a planning group. Interventions are usually charged situations and there is a possibility of potential resentment, anger and the victim may feel betrayed so it helps being prepared and having a plan.
  2. Planning Specific Details – The team sets a location and date for the intervention. They work together so as to present a rehearsed and consistent message. To keep the discussion focused on solutions and not on the strong emotional responses it helps to have a non-family member in the group. The loved one should not now about the intervention until that day.
  3. Deciding on Consequences – If the loved one does not accept treatment each member of the team should decide what action they will take. Consequences vary from cutting them off financially to taking away contact with their children.
  4. Take in Notes on What To Say – Each member of the team describes an incident that the addiction has caused problems such as financial and emotional issues. They should discuss the toll the loved one behavior has caused them but at the same time express care.
  5. Stage the Intervention – Without prior being told the loved one is asked to come to the site. They then take times expressing their feelings. They present a treatment option to the loved one.
  6. Follow up – This is critical to help the loved one with an addiction process from relapsing. This includes family members offering to participate in counseling with their loved one or knowing what they should do if a relapse occurs.

  • Consider hiring a professional interventionist. This is the best, ideal method. Professionals know exactly what to do and how to do it. If you can’t afford to hire a professional, many have been done successfully without them.
  • Round up a small but very dedicated group of family members and/or close friends – The “quality” of participants is more important than quantity. Five or less is ideally the right number of people to participate. Make sure they understand their role.
  • Make the necessary arrangements for having the person admitted to the chosen treatment program. It is absolutely mandatory to have a treatment center prepared to admit the person immediately after the intervention.
  • Plan the place and time to do the intervention – The person with the drug or alcohol problem cannot know about it. It is like a secret from them. The people participating have to arrive well ahead of time.
  • Discuss and then script what each participating person will say during the intervention – Each person should have a good idea what they are going to say as you go around the room.
  • Outline what consequences will be leveled against the concerned person should they refuse to agree to go to rehab
  • Give specific examples of the addicts destructive behavior and how they impact the addict and the family at large
  • Provide a prearranged treatment program outlining clear steps, guidelines and goals
  • Spell out what each family member is ready to do if the loved one refuses treatment

The “consequences” are the key. If the person still refuses to go to rehab, then there has to be consequences. A spouse must be willing to say they are going to divorce their spouse unless they agree to get help. Other consequences can include friends and family saying they will have nothing to do with the person unless they go to rehab today.


A family intervention can prevent someone from suffering the inevitable consequences of their behaviors, by confronting the person with the realities of the situation, in a loving way. By planning and doing an intervention, you can break through and get them the help they so desperately need, if it is handled in a loving, non-confrontational fashion. Denial is a good term to describe the state of mind the person abusing drugs and or alcohol.

They deny to themselves and others they have a problem. Interventions are designed to break the barrier of denial. An intervention is a proven process that has helped thousands of families and friends break the “Barrier of Denial” surrounding a person who is concealing or denying their drug or alcohol abuse.

An intervention is the best way to help someone see the impact their drug or alcohol use is having on themselves and the people around them.

  • When a family member is drug and or alcohol dependent it negatively impacts everyone.
  • Family interventions use the power of concern and love to break through denial and get the loved one to start treatment.
  • A family intervention gets the whole family to work together and solve this debilitating problem.

A professionally handled Intervention is, by far, the most effective way of conducting a successful family intervention. A professionally conducted and directed intervention is, by far, the most effective way of conducting one. The cost of hiring a professional intervention is consistent with the services rendered. Finding the right professional interventionist can be a challenge. We can help.

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